MARRIAGE REVEALED. Of J. PAUL GETTY JR., 62, billionaire philanthropist, and VICTORIA HOLDSWORTH, 44, a former model and his companion of 20 years; both for the third time; on Dec. 29; in Barbados. RESTORED. MOSHOESHOE II, 56, exiled King of Lesotho, banished by the country's ruling military council in 1990; to the throne; in the capital, Maseru. More than 10,000 subjects watched as Moshoeshoe's son King Letsie III, who had been installed after Moshoeshoe's dethronement, formally abdicated and handed back the crown to his father. DISMISSED. FAUSTO ALZATI, 41, Mexico's Minister of Education; by President Ernesto Zedillo; after the press discovered that the Harvard University doctorate and National Autonomous University of Mexico law degree Alzati claimed to hold did not exist; in Mexico City. Although Alzati studied at both schools, he never wrote a dissertation or thesis and thus did not earn degrees. ASSASSINATED. GREGORIO ORDONEZ, 36, deputy mayor of the Basque city of San Sebastian and regional leader of Spain's opposition Popular Party; shot in the head by an unknown assailant as he was lunching. Ordonez, an outspoken critic of the Basque terrorist group eta, had repeatedly refused police protection despite death threats. DIED. JAMES GRANT, 72, impassioned director of UNICEF since 1980; of cancer, two days after resigning for health reasons; in Mount Kosco, New York. Under his leadership of unicef, the percentage of children immunized in the developing world rose from 20% to 80%. He helped formulate the 1989 U.N. Convention of the Rights of the Child, which recognized the political and economic rights of children. Grant received the U.S. Presidential Medal of Freedom in 1994. DIED. ROSE FITZGERALD KENNEDY, 104, matriarch of America's foremost political family, whose indomitable will and unshakable faith sustained her through the many tragedies that befell the Kennedys; in Hyannis Port, Massachusetts. The oldest daughter of Boston Mayor John F. (``Honey Fitz'') Fitzgerald, Rose attended convent schools in Boston and Europe. At 24 she married Joseph P. Kennedy, with whom she had nine children in 18 years. While Joe revealed a facility with money that was to make him a millionaire many times over on Wall Street, in real estate and in the movie business--and built almost as great a reputation as a womanizer--Rose raised her children with a combination of strict discipline, inspirational instruction and Irish charm. They brought her an astounding mix of maternal pride and grief: the eldest daughter Rosemary was retarded and was institutionalized in 1941. Joe Jr. was killed in World War II. In 1948 daughter Kathleen died in a plane crash in southern France. Then the world mourned with Rose when President John F. Kennedy was assassinated in 1963 and again when his brother Robert was slain in 1968. Her husband died the following year. ``God does not send us a cross heavier than we can bear,'' she once said. ``How you cope is the important thing.'' DIED. BAMBI, 31, female red deer, since 1989 the oldest of her species known to man, according to the Guinness Book of World Records; put down after a stroke; near Inverness, Scotland. John and Nancy Fraser, who cared for Bambi at the guesthouse they own, attributed her longevity--almost twice the life span of the average deer--to tender care and a diet of sugar beets, flaked maize and chocolate biscuits.